I need a pedicure. I need a manicure. I need a haircut. I need a nap. I need some serious antibiotics for this raging urinary tract infection. My eyebrows resemble two fuzzy catapillars and my ass needs stairs like the desert needs the rain. There isn't enough time.
I think, as mothers, we often forget to put ourselves in front of everyone else...even if it's just for a while. I had a conversation with a friend yesterday about feeling guilty when I put my needs in front of the boys'. I rarely buy myself something really good and when I do, I feel the need to return the item or make up for the lost time. Alicia is often lost in the shuffle.
Robert rarely complains about the things we lack, but he doesn't seem to feel guilty about his new truck box, his new headache rack, or his recently tinted windows. He doesn't feel guilty when he calls in sick to work. He simply says, "If I'm sick, I'm sick." So easy going.
I'd like my blog to become a source of goodness for mothers. One where converstations are had and where we can come for advice. So, comment about the mommy-guilt. How do you deal with it? How do we feel less guilty? Meet eachother through the blog. Make friends that understand what you're going through. And, welcome the new moms of two! They'll need us!
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I AM A SHOPAHOLIC! OK NOW THAT IVE ADMITTED IT I CAN SAY THAT IN THE LAST 4 YEARS I HAVE RARELY BOUGHT SOMETHING FOR MYSELF. MY HAIR HAS GONE TOO LONG BEFORE GETTING CUT, MY JEANS HAVE WORN OUT A LITTLE MORE THAN I WOULD LIKE, SAME WITH MY SHOES, MY NICE SHOES, MY FUN STUFF, ETC.... BUT I KNOW THAT MY KIDS HAVE MORE THAN NEEDED IN CLOTHES, AND SHOES, AND IM SURE TOYS TOO. I HIT UP SALES AND BUY WAY AHEAD SO THAT I AM ALWAYS STOCKED UP - IN EVERYTHING! (BDAY GIFTS, PANTS 2 SIZES BIGGER) I KNOW WITH 3 BOYS THINGS WILL GET WORN OUT AND USED ALOT SO I TRY TO HAVE SOMETHING TO REPLACE AS NEEDED. BUT WHEN I TRY TO BUY FOR MYSELF OR PLAN SOMETHING FOR MYSELF LIKE A HAIRCUT I HAVE THAT SAME GUILT! I FEEL BAD SOMEBODY HAS TO WATCH MY KIDS FOR AN HOUR HAIRCUT OR LIKE I WOULD LOVE THOSE SHOES BUT I REALLY DONT NEED THEM AND SHOULD GO BUY DIAPERS INSTEAD. IT TAKES ALOT OF CONTINUOUS THOUGHT TO TELL YOURSELF ITS OK ONCE IN AWHILE TO DO IT FOR YOU. ULTIMATELY THAT LITTLE BOOST WILL MAKE YOU FEEL SO MUCH BETTER WHICH CAN ONLY MAKE YOU A BETTER MOM WHEN YOU ARE BACK ON THE CLOCK!
ReplyDeleteI do not think the mommy-guilt ever goes away or that we can ever put ourselves first for even just a little while. I have 5 little persons that go ahead of me, plus 1 big person (that is exactly how Robert is)..so, by the time my turn comes around, one of the 6 in front of me always needs something else. It's ridiculous but it's my life. I haven't had my hair or nails done FOREVER, haven't bought myself anything that cost more than $20 since I don't know when, or had actual time to myself since the first one was born, hahaha..but at the same time, I wouldn't trade any of it for anything in the world!!
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